Stillborn baby boy

A week ago Friday the 18th I received some very heartbreaking news.  The baby boy I was carrying had died, I was 23 weeks along.  On Saturday, the next day, I had to deliver him.  As you can imagine this has been very devastating and heartbreaking to me and my family.

I will be taking a break from blogging to grieve and try to heal.

 

Comments

  1. Oh Merete, I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  2. tamba:

    I’m so absolutely heartbroken for you :( I can’t imagine the pain, the agony of this. Much love to you xoxoxoxox

  3. Tiff:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. You will be in our prayers for sure. God bless you.

  4. Jessica:

    I pray you find peace and comfort as you mourn with your loved ones and hold them close.

  5. My heart goes out to you in so many ways. A year ago this month I found out I miscarried. It was very early on in the pregnancy and nowhere near as heartbreaking as what you must be going through, but on some minuscule scale, I understand. When life feels impossible, as surely it will sometimes, know that so many are thinking of and praying for you and your family. Hugs to all of you.

  6. Jonna:

    Oh no :( oh dear, my heart breaks. Wishing you all the comfort and strength and time you need to heal.

  7. I am so-so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Take care.

  8. I have no words, but I’m praying for you.

  9. brooke:

    thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

  10. Lisa:

    I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I hope you are able to find peace and comfort and I will say a prayer for you and your family. I have people praying for me, even strangers like I am to you, and I feel the strength of those prayers as I hope you have too.

  11. I am so so sorry and my hearties broken for you. God, I pray you wrap this family in your healing arms, and give them unimaginable peace and comfort in this time.

  12. tira:

    wishing you peace and comfort in this difficult time. god bless.

  13. tira:

    wishing you peace and comfort in this difficult time. god bless you and your family.

  14. Dear God,
    Bless this family and help to heal their deep sorrow and heartbreak. We are also saddened to hear this news. Please keep this family in all our prayers as they work through this loss.
    Amen

  15. My heart is broken for you and your family. We lost our second child when he was 6 weeks old, so I understand a little of the grief and aching you and your family are walking through right now. I pray that you can feel God’s presence during these difficult days, and all the ones ahead. I know that we will both be reunited with our wee ones one day, and it will be glorious. You and your family are in my prayers. xo Heather

  16. wies:

    I am so very sorry for your terrible loss. I cannot offer you anything other than that you and your family are in my thoughts and I wish you strength and courage in this difficult time. XO

  17. mel:

    There are no words, only that we mamas all send you such support and sympathy… we lost our niece (full term) last year and it still hits us hard. Life is such a fleeting miracle, but it’s tragic to lose it far too soon in this way.. take all the time your family needs to hold each other close and share comfort.
    xx
    mel
    needle and nest design

  18. Gaby:

    I am so, so sorry for your loss… Try to be strong. Sending love and light to you and your family.

  19. Oh, I feel so sad for you! I hope you and your family will find the strength to recover and that you will have a lot of support during this hard time!

  20. Nadine:

    Dear Merete,
    I am SO SO SO sorry for your loss!!! I am sending you love and strenght and all that you need to find a way to heal! My heart goes out to you and you and your family will be in my thoughts!
    XO
    Nadine

  21. Jen:

    I’m so so sorry for the loss of your baby boy. praying for comfort and healing for your family… xoxo

  22. ana:

    Merete I’m so incredibly sorry. I have no words that can even begin to take away your sorrow. My heart is breaking for you and your family. Sending you lots of hugs and well wishes.

  23. I can’t say anything, but give you a sincere virtual hug <3 Will remember you and your family in thoughts and prayers. Much Love from over here.
    sungting

  24. Sarah:

    Can’t imagine your grief. Will say a prayer for you and yours.

  25. I’m so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

  26. Oh Merete, I am so very sorry for your loss, for this little angel…
    God bless you and your family.

  27. So heartbroken for you and your family. Sending peace and love your way. xoxo

  28. Ez:

    I am so deeply sorry for you and your family. There just are no words that express enough sorrow for such a tragic loss. Please take all the time you need to grieve and heal. You are in our thoughts and prayers. xox

  29. emma:

    I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss.

    This is my first visit to your blog following a link from mermag and I just wanted to send you all of my love. I also had a stillborn baby boy at 22wks almost four years ago now. Whilst there is nothing that I can do to take away your pain, please do email me if you want to chat.

    You will never forget him, he will always be your son and you his mother. The pain will subside though, I promise.

    May our precious little boys have fun together up there.

    With all of the love in the world, Emma xxx

  30. Dee:

    So sorry for your loss.

  31. Oh no, I am so sorry for your loss. This is every momans nightmare. I sincerely hope that you will be able to heal soon.

  32. Lola:

    I’m so sorry for your loss, send you all my love, peace and strength.

  33. Christy:

    Praying for you..

  34. We are thinking of you and your family … take as much time as you need … and when you are ready we will welcome you with open arms! irene xx

  35. Judith Flynn:

    I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

  36. Carol:

    Be strong, he’s done his job on earth and now is in heaven. i’m sure he knows he was loved.

  37. Claudia:

    I just read your blog and want to tell you how sorry I am for you, for your family and for your little boy. I am sending you my love from Germany and hope you find peace and healing.

  38. Susan:

    I am so sorry for your loss

  39. Mete,

    My thoughts and prayers are with you. So sorry for your loss, no words to express my condolences.

    X Rachel

  40. mer:

    Sweet Meta, just thinking of you today (and always). Praying for your dear family. Available to get together if you ever want to get out for a bit.
    xoxo
    Mer

  41. mindy:

    Oh I am so incredibly sad for your family. I will be praying for you all.

  42. I don’t know you and you don’t know me.
    But I know the pain you’ve been through and are still feeling, because the exact same thing happened to me 10 years ago.
    There are no words…
    As Emma already told you, you will alway remember him, but there will be a time, I promise, when you will be able to think about him gently.
    All my thoughts are with you and your family.
    Carole (from Paris, France)

  43. Alison:

    I can’t even fathom going through something like this. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  44. Heather:

    I’m so very sorry for your loss.

  45. I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. I could not even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family & your precious little angel. Much love to you xx

  46. dearest family,
    you are in our thoughts, prayers, and deepest tears in this loss. there is none greater than that of your own child.

  47. Pauline:

    So sorry for your loss

    So, for today, my strength is weak
    My heart may ache, my eyes may leak
    But peace and faith can follow sorrow

    I will be strong again tomorrow

  48. robyn:

    i am so sorry. there are no words, but i couldn’t read your post and not reply. take your time.

  49. Vanessa:

    Meta, I can imagine the pain you have in your heart at the moment. Two years ago I suffered the same – a boy – and it was the worst time of my life. I can promise you that you will feel peace in your heart again. I pray for you. xx

  50. Michaela:

    I am so sorry for your loss, and the loss to your family. Hoping your husband and little ones bring you some solace.

  51. sending warm thoughts and love to you and your little boy

  52. Such heartache. I am so sorry. There are no words, but I think of “…a little rain must fall.” I hope this storm passes gently and you find peace soon. You have created so much beauty around you and I hope all you have created and given comes back to you in comfort.

  53. Julie:

    Saying a prayer for you and your loved ones. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this.

  54. Kathy Whitaker:

    Dear Meta,
    I am so sorry to hear this has happen to you , my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
    My daughter and her husband had the same mournful experience last year. She was in her eighth month and went in for a regular prenatal exam and they couldn’t find the heart beat. Three days later she delivered my 1st grandson Henry. We think of him daily and as time marches we are much stronger having gone through the experience.
    They are still trying to conceive, and just found out on the 18th my son-inlaw has colin cancer. So now they are making trips to the fertility clinic to bank as many little swimmers as possible before the chemo and radiation treatment. We all have to keep on with positive thoughts an offer support to one another through these trying times.

  55. I’m so sorry to hear this. You and your family are in my prayers.

  56. Hollie:

    So many hopes and dreams not to be unfolded! I am so sorry for you and your family.

  57. Kim:

    This is my first time visiting your blog and your first sentences took my breath away. I am deeply sorry to hear of your heartbreaking loss. I hope hearing others thoughts and prayers and messages of love and caring, can bring some small measure of comfort to you. Remember, you are NEVER alone. Even those who have never met you, feel your pain and share in your sorrow. Give yourself as much time as you need, wrap yourself in your loved ones arms and know that a peaceful day is around a corner, just waiting for you. You and your family are in my prayers.

  58. Dori:

    I actually just clicked on a Pinterest post and was brought to your site. I am at the 2 year date of my sons stillbirth at 37 weeks. I found a friend on a support group going through what I had been through and it was so helpful to have someone I didn’t feel guilty talking about my feelings with. if you ever have any questions or want to vent feel free to email me. For me talking to others that had dealt with such a devastating loss really helped. Dwilliamsfnp@gmail.com.

  59. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

  60. Shana:

    Just over 2 years ago, my baby boy was born at 24 weeks, 4 days. He passed away after a valiant 30-day fight. The ache is still real, but the days are noticeably lighter now. I pray that the diversion from the planned-for path keeps you turning towards your partner.
    Love to your family.
    Love to your sweet son.

    http://www.glowinthewoods.com may be a helpful place to talk

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=w0rCfXSdYPhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=w0rCfXSdYPE

  61. Dear Meta, I am so sorry for you and your lovely family. My prayers from the other side of the world. I am thinking of you and sending you all my love.

  62. Dear Merete, my hart goes out to you. I don’t really know what to say, as I don’t think I can imagine what you are going through. I just wanted to say that I’m thinking of you and send you lots of strength in this difficult time.

  63. Mylittlecorner:

    Im so sorry to hear your sad news.

  64. Lucy Woesthoff:

    I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I send you lots of love. x

  65. elda:

    hug hug hug hug hug hug

  66. Lindsay:

    There are no words…
    My husband and I also lost our baby girl when I was 24 weeks along. Two years ago in February I delivered our stillborn baby and my life has been forever changed. Please email me if you want to “talk” more. Take care of yourself.

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